Lifestyle

3 Mental Habits To Win Your Wife Back

Published

1 year ago

September 11, 2023

Rosario Farell

Have you heard the words:

“It’s over. I’m done. There’s no chance. I am no longer in love with you.”

You made a huge mistake when you heard those words. The error you made is that you believed what she was saying. Don’t get me wrong; almost every single husband makes the same mistake. I get it. You felt devastated when you heard those heartbreaking words. Although it rattled you, luckily, there are three mental habits that you can do to get your wife to regret ever saying them and want you back. You must understand these three things to retain her. These mental habits are inner shifts you make within yourself to get a completely different external result.

You would think some giant betrayal causes wives to leave, move out, see another man, or ask for a divorce. The truth is, most times, it isn’t that at all. Instead, it’s death by a thousand cuts. I call it the emotional tipping scale.

Emotional Tipping Scale

Imagine that there are all the positive emotions on one side of a scale. At the beginning of the relationship, you guys had a lot in this emotional bank. As time continued, every time you were complacent, you didn’t choose her, you didn’t lead, you became emotionally reactive, or you shut down your emotions. Each of these disconnections was another item on the negative side of the scale. This happened until one single event broke the camel’s back.

This emotional Tipping Point is scientifically proven. Studies show that successful and happy marriages that last a long time have four positive emotional experiences to every one negative experience. If there are too many negative experiences, you become the villain in her life instead of the hero. That being said, even too many positive interactions will make her lose respect and leave you.

Context Transference

Mastering context transference will skyrocket your results with your wife on autopilot. I hear so many men say this exact thing,

“I don’t get it. At work, with my employees and colleagues, I’m confident, unreactive, and listen to their emotions. If I could be that way with my wife, my marriage wouldn’t be falling apart.”

For this first tip, you don’t have to learn anything new. You possess all the skills already, and you just have to learn how to apply these skills to your wife.

For example, when I was in college, there would be girls I didn’t care much about. I wasn’t attracted to them, and I was carefree. I was funny, confident, and relaxed; everything I needed to do to get them to like me more. Then, I met this girl. As soon as I met her, I had a huge crush. I romanticized her, put her on a pedestal, and couldn’t think when I was around her. I was frozen stiff, didn’t say a word, didn’t make funny jokes, and didn’t do all the relaxed things I would typically do around women. Because of this, she didn’t see who I was and wasn’t attracted to me. One day, I asked her out and got rejected. I was curious why this happened to me, so I researched it. I found a technique from neuro-linguistic programming and did a visualization exercise where I could remove the anxiety and the fear, shed that layer of insecurity, and become my highest-value self. You need to find total confidence in who you are and then apply that same framework to the situations you’re struggling with while talking to your wife. Having that confidence in yourself is so powerful she’ll swoon over you.

Guided Forgiveness

Many guys think they’ve forgiven their wives, but they haven’t. Frequently, I see that guys have an underlying tone of hesitance that’s still harbored in the tone of their voice. The other day, I was running a group call on the Marriage Mastery Program and talking to the guys about an intense internal topic. What I found for this group was that when the guys were in a safe place talking with other men going through the same thing, they could clearly define what they hadn’t truly forgiven their wives for. They had a small subconscious thought that was taking a toll on their relationship with their wives. The first step is becoming aware of your doubts, but the second is understanding how to change them. It doesn’t matter what communication changes or external changes you make in your relationship. If that voice is still in the back of your head, it’ll find subtle ways to sabotage it all. Forgiveness is the only way to quiet that voice.

I want you to imagine strings on the back of your head pulling you to the past. Every time there is a new fight with her, those strings get pulled, and you’re guided back to the past. When you’re focusing on the past, using past emotions, actions, and thoughts, you will replicate the same scenarios every single time. If you find a way to cut off that string from the past, you can move forward toward the new future with your wife that you want. Forgiveness is your scissors. Your ability to use them is the context transference. The ability to find them is the third mental habit.

Eudemonia Exaltation

Eudemonia means “the condition of human flourishing.” The opposite of that is hedonism, which is immediate pleasure and wanting to avoid pain at all costs.

I want you to imagine that you lost your keys in the dark in your house. You have a date with your wife in 20 minutes, so you’re frantically looking for the keys. You’re scrambling around the dark house when you see a street lamp out the window. You realize there’s light under the streetlamp, so you go into the light and search there. Even though there’s light, why are you searching for the keys outside when you know you lost them inside your house?

This is exactly what most men do, and you probably do the same. How often do you look for answers to saving your marriage outside yourself? Whether it’s you blaming it on your wife’s bipolar tendencies, narcissism, abuse, trauma, her family, or her friends, you’re looking for outside issues to fix an internal problem. When you look for answers to improve your marriage outside of your power, you’re looking for your keys outside when you know you lost them inside. If you change the patterns within yourself, you’ll find the answers to saving your marriage.

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Lifestyle

How To Combine Astrology With Self-Care Rituals To Enhance Daily Living

Published

1 day ago

March 5, 2025

Michelle Langton

Self-care looks different for everyone. And it could look different day by day. Sometimes you just need meditation or journaling or a grounding ritual. Sometimes you need movement. Sometimes you need more rest. Have you ever wondered why it’s different day-by-day and why you can’t seem to “stick” to something?

Most of us know something about Western astrology, but have you ever heard of Vedic astrology (Jyotish)? Vedic astrology focuses on your moon sign (which may differ from your Western astrological chart), planetary transits, and Dasha period. These three areas shape how you feel, act, and process emotions every day.

The time management app align27 doesn’t just focus on your typical horoscope. It gives you a personalized Vedic birth chart and a daily favorability forecast based on planetary influences. It uses a simple yet powerful stoplight system — green for favorable times, yellow for neutral, and red for moments when it’s best to slow down — to help you navigate each day with intention.

Why Vedic astrology and self-care go hand in hand

Ever have days where everything flows effortlessly and others where nothing seems to go right? That’s not random — it’s the influence of the planets at play. Vedic astrology teaches that planetary transits and periods, and the Moon’s placement each day all impact your energy.

By understanding these influences, align27 customizes your self-care rituals to work with the planetary energies rather than against them. The result? A self-care routine that feels more natural, restorative, and in harmony with your personal astrology.

How to align self-care with align27

1. Follow your moon sign for emotional well-being

In Vedic astrology, your Moon sign reveals how you process emotions, handle stress, and recharge. The align27 app provides real-time insights into your Moon sign’s current state, helping you plan self-care that supports your well-being.

Fire Moons (Aries, Leo, Sagittarius): align27 will highlight action-oriented times, which are perfect for movement-based self-care like yoga, walking, or a workout.

Earth Moons (Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn): Your best self-care moments often fall during grounding planetary periods. The align27 app helps you time activities like cooking, gardening, or Ayurvedic oil massages.

Air Moons (Gemini, Libra, Aquarius): Mental stimulation is key for you. Use align27’s favorable green time slots to plan journaling, reading, or creative work.

Water Moons (Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces): Emotional balance is crucial; align27 suggests introspective yellow periods during which self-care like meditation, breathwork, or music therapy can help you reset.

By checking your daily Moon sign insights in align27, you can sync your self-care with your emotional energy instead of forcing routines that don’t feel right.

2. Sync with planetary transits for daily rituals

Planetary movements in Vedic astrology directly influence your daily energy. Instead of following the same self-care routine every day, use the align27 app to check which planets are strongest and which ones need balancing.

Green periods: Ideal for action — schedule workouts, deep work, or personal projects.

Yellow periods: Best for reflection — meditation, light reading, or connecting with loved ones.

Red periods: Time to pause — prioritize self-care, avoid big decisions, and rest.

For example:

If align27 shows a red period under Mercury’s influence, it’s a sign to unplug from tech and practice silence (Mauna) instead.

A green period during a Moon transit suggests a great time for emotional processing through journaling or spiritual rituals.

If Saturn is active, align27 might recommend structured self-care, like a disciplined yoga practice or fasting.

The daily timing feature of align27 takes the guesswork out of self-care, helping you plan around when the universe is actually working with you, not against you.

3. Use your Venus sign for beauty and self-love rituals

In Vedic astrology, Venus (Shukra) represents luxury, pleasure, and how you experience beauty. But your Venus sign in your birth chart tells you what kind of self-care truly nourishes your soul.

Venus in Fire Signs: You love bold, energizing self-care. Ayurvedic herbal treatments, bright colors, and invigorating scents like sandalwood or saffron uplift your energy.

Venus in Earth Signs: You prefer high-quality, natural self-care. Organic skincare, silk bedding, and nourishing food rituals align with your Venus energy.

Venus in Air Signs: You thrive on social and intellectual beauty. Try mantra recitation, decorating your space with art, or engaging in deep conversations.

Venus in Water Signs: You need emotionally fulfilling self-care. Essential oil baths, soft textures, and music therapy create a calming atmosphere.

4. Strengthen your planetary weaknesses through rituals

Each planet in your birth chart has strengths and weaknesses based on its placement. You can balance planetary imbalances through specific self-care rituals:

Weakened moon? Drink warm milk with cardamom, wear white, and meditate under the full Moon.

Struggling with Rahu energy? Reduce digital distractions, light camphor, and chant “Om Rahave Namah.”

Mars overactivity? Avoid spicy food, practice slow yoga, and wear cool colors like blue or white.

The align27 app personalizes these remedies based on your birth chart and daily planetary shifts.

Align your self-care with the stars

When you integrate Vedic astrology into your self-care routine, you’re not just following trends but tuning into the ancient wisdom of timing and energy alignment. Instead of forcing yourself into a one-size-fits-all self-care plan, you can create rituals that genuinely support you based on the cosmic influences at play.

With tools like align27, you can easily track your best days for rest, action, and reflection — making self-care effortless and aligned with the universe. Because taking care of yourself isn’t just about doing more — it’s about doing what’s right for you, at the right time.